What exactly is it about Love? Have you ever truly being in Love, I mean literally swept off your foot and head over heels in love? if yes, then we certainly will all agree that it’s a Beautiful feeling, to love & to be loved in return. Love makes you see the world in different light, you look at people from a different perspective &you handle situations differently.
But come to think of it, after all the fuzzy &butterfly feelings are gone then what next?
You suddenly realize that Love is simply not enough.
On this basis, we can deduce that Love is truly not a feeling but a Decision, a Decision to love that person against all odds whether the feelings are there or not.
Believe me, it only takes a while before the butterflies disappear.
Note that, When I say Love is not enough, I mean just the idea of being in love is not enough to carry one through the years that will be spent together as couples. People will agree with me that after the initial years of Dating, Engagement, Courtship &whatever names we refer to the period before marriage. The feelings will begin to decline not of will but of necessity ,after all, you "have seen the person finish" ,you are now married, you have children, so what's the hype, right? Now it’s natural for a couple to begin to grow apart, focusing more on the children &on building careers. And couples just become strange bed fellows. But how can this Love,(remember the fuzziness &butterfly feelings of yester years?)be rekindled?
Below are some ways, although not exhaustive.
1. Write down the reason why you fell in love in the first place and look out for those reasons in your partner. The reason you chose this person instead of others.
2. Take holidays away without the kids.
Change your environment.
3. Talk. Talk about the way things are between you.
4. Re watch your wedding videos
5. Visit places of significance to you,like where you met,where you had your first date..etc.
6. Give Gifts
7. Pray to God to help you rekindle your love
No kidding, apply some of these things and watch your relationship or Marriage take a turn around.
But most importantly, be in love, not fall in love( cliché but true). Love is just more than the butterfly feelings. You have to agree with the person you marry, share same values and at least have to 70% things in common and above all make sure you are good friends with your betrothed.
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